In recent years, more Malaysians are choosing to marry later in life. While marriage is still valued in society, many young adults are taking more time before making that commitment. Rising living costs, career priorities, and concerns about responsibility are among the key reasons behind this shift.
Here is a closer look at why Malaysian marriages are being delayed today.
Rising Wedding and Living Costs
One major reason Malaysian marriages are being delayed is financial pressure. Weddings in Malaysia can be expensive. Costs include venue rental, catering, wedding attire, photography, hantaran, and gifts. EVen a simple wedding can require tens of thousands of ringgit.
Beyond the wedding itself, the real concern is life after marriage. Rent or house loans, car payments, utilities, groceries, and daily expenses are increasing. Many young people feel that their current salary is not enough to support a spouse, especially if they plan to have children. Because of this, they choose to wait until they feel more financially stable.
Focusing on Career and Supporting Parents
Many young Malaysians now prioritise career growth before marriage. They want to secure a stable income, gain work experience, or reach certain career goals first. Some feel that marriage may slow down their progress or limit their flexibility at work.
At the same time, many young adults feel responsible for supporting their parents financially. With rising living costs, some families depend on their children’s income. As a result, marriage is delayed because they want to fulfill their duty to their parents before starting their own family.
Not Ready for Big Responsibilities
Marriage comes with serious responsibilities. It is not only about love, but also about commitment, sacrifice, and long-term planning. Many young Malaysians admit they are not mentally or emotionally ready to carry the role of husband or wife.
Having children is another major concern. Raising a child in Malaysia today is costly. Expenses include childcare, education, healthcare, and daily needs. Some feel that having children will increase financial pressure and reduce personal freedom. Because of this, they prefer to delay marriage until they feel more prepared.
Fear of Choosing the Wrong Partner
Another important reason Malaysian marriages are being delayed is fear of making the wrong choice. Divorce cases and relationship issues shared on social media have made many young people more cautious.
Some women, in particular, worry about marrying men who may not provide consistent financial support or who may avoid responsibility. Stories about partners failing to give “nafkah” or not contributing equally in marriage create anxiety. As a result, many prefer to take more time to evaluate their partner carefully before making a lifelong decision.
Small Salaries and Cost of Living Pressure
Although many graduates enter the workforce every year, starting salaries are often considered low compared to the cost of living in Malaysia. In cities like Kuala Lumpur, rent and daily expenses are high. Saving money for marriage, buying a house, and preparing for children can feel overwhelming.
Because of this, some young Malaysians decide not only to delay marriage, but also to delay having children. They want to avoid financial stress and debt. For them, stability comes first before starting a family.
Changing Mindsets About Marriage
Today’s generation views marriage differently compared to the past. In earlier times, people married young because it was seen as a life milestone that must happen early. Now, young adults believe marriage should happen only when both parties are truly ready.
They value emotional maturity, financial stability, and compatibility more than age. Marriage is no longer rushed. Instead, it is seen as a long-term commitment that requires careful planning.
Marriage is Delayed, Not Rejected
Malaysia marriages are being delayed mainly due to financial pressure, career focus, family responsibilities, and fear of instability. Young people are not rejecting marriage. They are simply being more careful and realistic about the future.
As living cost continue to rise, this trend may continue unless economic conditions improve and young workers feel more secure.
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